Is there one person that will not fail you?

We walked along the boardwalk, waves crashing in the distance. The tangy salty smell beckoned us closer to the shoreline filled with black sand. After all, how often would we get to see and experience the South Pacific.

But as we stepped off the boardwalk, to walk this stunning shoreline, we realized we weren’t on sand at all. As far as we could see were millions of black pebbles.

 This photo from Pebble Beach Motor Inn is courtesy of TripAdvisor

Slippery. Constantly shifting. No way to get solid footing. Unstable.

napier-black-pebble-beachThen we spotted a huge warning sign:

“Stay back from the water’s edge. Rogue waves and dangerous rip currents.”

We were warned about people getting “sucked out to sea” by rogue waves. Standing on these black pebbles, we got it. No way to maintain your footing if you got hit by a wave.

Beautiful. Dangerous. Unpredictable.

If we weren’t careful, our life could change in an instant.

Come to think of it, that’s true every day.

Life is beautiful, unpredictable, capricious.

However, there is one that is immutable (a big, fancy word for changeless). There is One that will never fail you or me.

Hard to believe that anything or anyone is immutable isn’t it.

But what if this really is true?

What if there is something that will never change? What if there is something or someone not affected by culture, mores, current political philosophies, or societal trends?

The Bible tells us that Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.

In the beginning you laid the foundations of the earth,
and the heavens are the work of your hands.
They will perish, but you remain;
they will all wear out like a garment.
Like clothing you will change them
and they will be discarded.
But you remain the same,
and your years will never end.

Michael Card, singer-songwriter and teacher, penned these words that assure us of Jesus’ unchangeable love:

He loves us with passion, without regret
He cannot love more and will not love less

You and I change. We are not always true to our word. Our actions are inconsistent. We do not love completely. Not so with Jesus.

The deep, deep love Jesus has for His created ones (you and me) never changes. While we may sometimes be disappointed in Jesus because circumstances in our life are not what we wished they were, He does not change. He is always true to His character. His love is immutable.

I hope you’ll enjoy this different rendition of the hymn, O The Deep, Deep Love of Jesus. The author of this hymn, Samuel Trevor Francis, discovered the constancy of Jesus when he contemplated taking his own life while on a London bridge.

Extraordinary, dependable love in unstable times.

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Re-post: Do You Know Your True Name?

A few months ago there was a Facebook questionnaire being circulated that caught my attention. You’ve seen these questionnaires that ask you certain questions designed to: give others a glimpse into a bit of your life; or “tell you” something about yourself.

This particular one got my attention because of one question:

Four names I go by?


When we are born, someone, usually our parents, gives us a name. Maybe it’s a family name or maybe it’s a name with special meaning. When my husband and I were naming our children, we carefully researched the origins and meanings of each name. We put great significance in our children’s names.

The Bible tells the story of a name in 1 Samuel 4. Here’s a brief synopsis:

The Israelites went out to fight the Philistines. But, since the battle wasn’t going very well for Israel, the leaders decided to bring the Ark of the Covenant, from its home in Shiloh, to the battle hoping it would turn the tide in their favor. Think “good luck charm.” Without asking the LORD. With the help of two not so godly priests, Hophni and Phinehas.

Well, Israel soundly lost the battle, the Philistines captured the Ark of the Covenant, and Hophni and Phinehas were killed.

Meanwhile, back at the ranch, er Shiloh, Eli, the elderly High Priest and dad, is anxiously waiting to hear news of the battle. But more than anything he’s worried about the Ark. Upon hearing the news that the Ark is captured, he falls off his chair and dies. But that’s not all, Phinehas’ wife, who’s very pregnant, hears the battle news, goes into labor, delivers her son, and with her dying breath names him, Ichabod. She said, “The Glory has departed from Israel, for the Ark of God has been captured.” Ichabod means “no glory.” I imagine, for the rest of his life, this guy was a constant reminder of Israel’s defeat. Because of his name.

Names are important.

Back to the Facebook question. How many names do you have?

  1. I have my given name, Kirsten, which means “follower of God.” My parents’ name for me that carries a special meaning.
  2. There are names given to me by others: wife, mom, sister, daughter, grandma, friend, aunt, writer, assistant, etc. Most of these names are innocuous. They are more like titles really. They indicate more of my position in someone’s life than my person. While I wear many of these names with pride and confidence, they define what I do but not who I am.

But some of the names given to me by others are painful. See if you can identify with any of these:

selfish, loud, boisterous, unfriendly, shy, pretty, plain Jane, wallflower,

nosey, talented, unworthy, unpopular, life of the party.

These are the names over which you have no control. But these are also the names which bring barbs and stings that want to cling to your being.

  1. There are names you give yourself. And these are perhaps the most destructive names of all. Listen to how you talk to yourself to discover these names. Ever hear things like this come out of your mouth?
      • You’re such an idiot
      • You’re so stupid
      • Way to embarrass yourself
      • If they really knew me they’d hate me
      • Loser
      • Klutz
      • Open mouth insert foot once again
      • Failure
      • Boring

    I’m sure you can think of a few more to add to this list. I know I can. Every time you and I say things like this about ourselves we are giving ourselves a negative name. And every time we hear that name, we inflict a wound because we speak a lie over our personhood.

  2. God gives you a name that focuses on who you are. Here are just a few:

Do you notice a difference between the names we give ourselves and the names God gives us?

God gives us life-giving names. He changes our name to identify us with Jesus Christ, who paid for our sins.

We tend to give ourselves names that demean and degrade. And that is exactly what the delights the enemy of our soul. He desires that we forget who we are in Christ. He prefers to keep us beaten down because then we are less likely to do that for which we are created—to bring God glory.

The names God gives us define who we are. Names are important to God, therefore they are important to us.

Let me change that Facebook question: Which name(s) do you accept?

Listen to your words today. What names are you calling yourself? Are they life-giving? Or do these names sting and anchor a barb into your heart and soul?

To delve deeper into the concept of names and how they define who you are, I recommend Your Secret Name: Discovering Who God Created You to Be.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. You can leave a comment below or send me an email.

Your name is beautiful!

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PS Last week I told you about an imminent change to this blog. We’re still working out the kinks so stay tuned.

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Don’t Miss Out on the Imminent Change

Reportedly, Benjamin Franklin said, “… in this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.”

However, I disagree.

I believe there is one other thing that is more certain. Change.

Change is part of life.

Seasons change.
Bodies change.
Interests change.
Preferences change.
Diets change.
Daily sunshine amounts change.
Relationships change.

Like it or not, our lives change every day.

I love the changing seasons; others prefer constant summer. Relationships morph throughout life. Friends you had as a child change as you mature. Some remain; some don’t.

Change is a normal.

In the spirit of change, this blog is moving to a new location in just a few days. It will have a new look, along with a new website. But the heart of this blog won’t change:

As a mother of three, and grandmother to eight, my desire is to help the struggling mom rediscover your purpose. When you visit my blog I hope you discover:

  • that I will walk with you through the struggles of life
  • that I will speak God’s Truth to you from His written Word
  • that we will uncover extraordinary moments of joy, laughter, and wonder together
  • that together we will learn how to live our legacy today

Life is a wonderful messy journey meant to be shared.

As soon as I’m ready to launch, I’ll send out the new site information. Stay tuned.

There’s an easy way to stay connected.

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What are some ways you handle the inevitable change in your life? Leave a comment below. I’d love to learn from you.

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